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sum thots of color
i am so disconnected with white LGBT media like………on every conceivable level. i cannot, will not and never will relate to any story about being LGBT that’s rooted in whiteness because they cannot, will not and never will reflect my reality as a queer WOC, especially a black one. obviously on the principle of both being LGBT, people of color and white people have some shared cultural experiences, but it’s crazy how much your race really defines your experiences as a queer person. but i will never resonate with brokeback mountain. i will never resonate with but im a cheerleader. i will never resonate with call me by your name (for multiple reasons lmao).
i had this discussion with my friend a couple weeks back about how there’s this very white image of what it means to be LGBT that feels like it’s impossible to navigate as a person of color. like i can’t even imagine myself in relationship with another black woman without erasing our culture from the equation because it’s too “ratchet” or “ghetto” for this very pristine, very white notion of being a wlw that just won’t leave my head. sometimes it feels like trying to shove square block into a triangular shaped hole.
i have such a deep-rooted resentment for white LGBT media that i get mad every time i’m reminded of it. im very, very bitter and i don’t think i’ll ever stop being bitter until LGBT POC have more than a handful of shows and movies to relate to. im sick and tired of the standard always being fucking white. like there’s already a constant struggle with our identity being queer and non-white, and all this shit does is reinforce this idea that people like me really just don’t belong. it really doesn’t help to think about how horribly POC are treated by whites within the community, either.
and this isn’t to like….appear more “woke” than other LGBT POC who do/can relate to white LGBT media because god knows when you’re starving you’ll make do. this is just like………my personal frustration and anger at the scraps ive been given and having to see myself within white LGBT characters knowing damn well this shit wasn’t made for people like me.
It’s not that you have issues…… it’s that you have a tendency to continue using instincts you picked up in childhood that are no longer useful to you on your journey towards achieving openness and intimacy and reliability in your personal relationships w others. It’s not that you’re defective or difficult or incapable it’s just that what you learned to do to save yourself from the experience of abandonment or rejection or ridicule or failure is not helpful here anymore and you need to start thinking creatively and collaborating on better ways to cope with that instrinsic fear that you are not correct, that you are faking, that you will be found out and left, whatever it is
